I was trying to explain that transposition between having thoughts and doing for others, because in every household the metaphor is clear: the caretaker is a woman, and so when I began writing, I listed out my morning, the preparations and cleaning up of spills and toys, taking down and fetching, the driving and carrying of people that no one wants to know about if we believe in the reality of book contracts and job offers. I had an accomplished list, I believed, a specific and authentic record of the drain cleared, of stirring a pot and rubbing the back of a hysterical child, and through it I thought I constructed a breathing replica of my life, the aspic in which I moved. But when I looked inside, looked closer, I found only the second-wave woman, nearly the very same image I knew repeatedly as a girl and as a woman trying to write, you are not this, you are this, these binaries, again and again. Yes, my time was missing, I did not sleep very much then, I had ground myself down on the mill wheel of uncompensated work, but my thoughts beat batwings against my skull, some of them more powerful than any idea I’d had yet in my life. I even wrote down all the things that flapped out of me at night in hours I stole from sleep or was expected to use on my child. I wrote the way writing feels urgent when you learn energy has been expended to silence you, or worse, to get you to silence yourself. These ideas that I wrote and even tried to publish were utterly new to me, I couldn’t have known them except for motherhood, and I wrote like this for years to an audience performing the great labor of the world, not only women but so many of us, we who are asked not to consider aloud what we become inside our prisons, schools, hospitals, our profitable, dick-swinging offices, we who are asked and then silenced by force, reduced pay and firings, dwindled invitations and the refusal of our words, belittled by stories everyone else seems to sign on for that tell us to disbelieve our lying eyes. In the midst of my work, running another errand or in the middle of the night, I wrote through it, learning women don’t give up our creative selves, no child demands it, but we are made to concede by real people who benefit from all we relinquish, those we know personally and those agents of power who do their best to be invisible, and then we are told this uncreative life was a choice. The list I made on the day I found a dead mouse under the sink and buried him, when I tore apart my child’s jigsaw puzzle in a glorious flying out of edges and fixed our washing machine with my own weary hands, it told me how angry I was at these tasks, a barrage I believed had worn my mind smooth. It explained why the writing came in pieces, but the list was not what I wanted to say, that I experience joy because I have made room for it. I am writing that while the metaphor, for women, of birthing to creative activity is in some ways correct, it is only the first move to conjure a woman’s grievances, and it is past time to make the second, and so I ask her to speak, I call her forth, I open my throat.